Moving to Lagos and adjusting to the new environment has been very tough for me. I remember my dad was against me moving at the time because he was scared it will take its toll on me, and guess what, it did. All I could think about then were the new experiences and challenges ahead of me.
Before I started working, I didn’t go out much because I didn’t have many friends around. Because of that, I assumed that living here wasn’t as bad as my dad said it will be, and so nothing really bothered me. I was basically having fun at home; watching tv, reading books, and checking my social media.
The reality of ‘Lagos life’ didn’t hit me till I started my service year. It seemed like everyone was running so fast and I couldn’t catch up. I felt like no one was nice, maybe because there are so many people, I don’t know.
Things are different where I grew up. It is a less populated town where all the neighbors interact and support one other. Everyone is nice to each other and it’s more like a default. We can see the genuine love we have for ourselves.
Within a short time, I realized that people here were not what I was used to. Everyone cared more for themselves than they did the next person. Sometimes, I get home and I can’t hold back the tears seeing how my day went. Scaling through each day in Lagos is so hectic that if you get home sane, you should be thankful.
The other day, I was reading a blogpost titled “What’s one nice thing someone has done for you recently?”on one of my favourite blogs, A Cup of Jo.
This prompted me to write, and truthfully, I haven’t met many nice people here. I believe the last person that was nice to me was my sister. One Saturday, she sent a bag of clothing to me which was lovely. It was like she knew exactly what I needed. I also think that instead of always waiting for people to be kind to you or give you nice things, why not show them an act of kindness too?
So ask yourself, ‘What’s one nice thing I’ve done for someone recently?’ ‘How have I showed kindness to the people around me?’ If your answers are not good enough, think of ways to become a better person, show others love as much as you can because you don’t know whose day you’re brightening up.